DRAMA QUEENS...jump off the damn ark already!

Have you ever know a drama queen? Someone whos life wouldnt be ok without drama??
I laugh at those people. Actually i used to work with ALOT of them, and i see their DRAMA unfold by looking on my daughter facebook. Apparently shes friends with one of them. All i can do is laugh! like literally laugh. WHAT THE HELL is wrong with your life? you have your mommy giving you a job, you have free freakin daycare for the kids you keep reproducing and ..may i say AND,, you CLAIM to be this wonderful christian woman! LMFAO! thats all i can say. There are these people who thrive on drama, drama that they create because if they didnt their life would be boring. Like omg, my 8mth old is able to crawl??? OMG alert the damn press,,,,you idiot all 8month olds start to crawl!!!! or omg,,i now have 2 kids in school,,,AGAIN you idiot, did you not think babies grew up,,,u have a freaking masters degree!!!!

The reason im writing this is because i was with kayla at the ob and i saw one of these so called CHRISTIAN girls there,,prego and all i could do is laugh! cant imagine the DRAMA shes dreaming up.
Wow,,im on a roll, lmao, now i sound like a drama queen, but infact the so called drama in my life is real.

parent vs friend

My promise to my kids -I am your parent first, your friend second. I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare & hunt you down like a bloodhound when needed because I LOVE YOU! When you understand that, I will know you're a responsible adult. You will NEVER find someone who loves, prays, cares, & worries about you more than I do!
remember that kiddos, Brandi , Jessika, Ashleigh, Mikayla , Brooke, kristopeher, KAYLA (LOL)

Can't get any more real than that!!! Can you imagine if parents didnt get involved when we were teens??? omg. I know to any teens reading this, we are the totallly uncool generation!
THis is the main problem theses days, being the parent FIRST, so many want to be friends, but think back for a moment, how many friends from school do you as adults still have? 1, 2, ? PARENTS are forever! How many parents will throw themselves under a bus for their child? EVERY parent I know. All we really want is for our children to become good upstanding adults.

There are so many children who have parents but dont have a mommy and daddy!
Anyone who has given birth or fathered a child can say they are parents, but thats no where near being mommy or daddy!

The next time I yell, flip out on, cry about, pray about, worry about one of my children, I hope they will know the depth of my love for them!

open adoption ,,,,closed minds! ugh

there are people that don’t like the idea of open adoption….they cling to the “fact” that it would be terribly confusing for the children. There’s also one arguments that it’s just “not fair” to “force” the child to build a relationship with this stranger (you know – the stranger that gave birth to them). BUT these same people are more than welcome to introduce their child to all kinds of other strangers, the grandparents the child doesn’t know yet. The aunts and uncles that they haven’t met, friends of the family , coworkers, etc.....

Recenently i was talking to some people who just dont get it. Its so weird to me, they said, "so you kind of share parenting" I was like, NO, "Dan and I are the parents." THen i got,,"well what if she tries to take him back" THAT is my all time favorite lol. I had to explain that open adoption is still adoption, the child is still and always will be LEGALLY ours, nothing can change that.
There is so much misconception about openess that i so wish would change. THere is no confusion in my children either bio children or adopted as to who mommy and daddy are. THe only thing that closed adoptions do is lie and deceive the one person that deserves the truth! THE CHILD!

coupons!!

Ok, so ive decided to get on this coupon bandwagon. ive been clipping for about 2 weeks now. im still trying to figure all this out, by no means will i get to be as good as the extreme couponers, but if i can begin to save even 20% off my bills i think that will be great!
Today i set out to get cereal because in a house with 6 kids that is a must have. I had clipped and saved coupons for 1.00 off a box of any kellogs cereal. Rite aid was running a special, 1.88 per box. I was able to purchase 10 boxes of cereal and 3 boxes of poptarts for a grand total of 15.00! Heck for my first try i think that was a decent savings!

Next week im aiming for a deal on shampoo, toothpaste, toothbrushes and of course tampons lol. Ill blog about that shopping trip next monday!!!!!

Negativity!!!!

Why is it that people focus on the wrongs that ppl do? YES some ppl do more wrong than others. So when does it even out???? Is scratching a scratch ticket the same wrong as robbing a store?..... Go ahead, think about it. ....You thinking? the answer is yep!!!!!!!!!!! If you beleive in God and the bible, a sin is a sin is a sin! No rating scale was developed!


I have a love in my heart for people. I dont care about what they have done in the past, i care about what they are doing for their future.
Some people thrive on the negative choices others have made. I thrive on the hope that people are going to CHANGE the negative decisions people make.

Last i checked..Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (NIV)


so WHAT if people make wrong decisions, its what they do with the outcome that matters!!!!!!!!
Lord knows ive made MANY wrong choices in my life and i thank GOD he forgives because God only knows where i would be!

IM sick of negativity for people who have made past mistakes. Im sick of
negativity in any way! i wish...... i guess thats all i can do?

primal wound discounts fathers!

Again back to the primal wound theory. The primal wound is all about the "so called loss " of the child to its biological mother. How does this make the biological father feel??? Never does she mention the loss of a child to his or her father! So basically whats shes saying is a biological father isnt as important to the child as the biological mother! What a bunch of CRAP! If people were to beleive her theory, the loss of the father should be as much of a hurt for that child but it is not discussed!

Basically shes disregarding fathers in her theory. The father plays a very important role in raising children too. Does she not think that if her theory is correct, the child would also be mourning the loss of the biofather?
A baby when born wants and needs, 3 things, human touch, food, shelter. IT doesnt matter who provides those needs. If that child feels safe, he or she is going to thrive, regardless .

If an adopted child is "acting out" etc, its not because he or she is wounded" or in pain, it has to do with genetics, dna, and other issues. So what is the theory on non adopted children who act out?? omg let me guess, lets blame their parents!!! Thats exactly what the primal wound is suggesting! BOGUS!

pw...primal wound nonsense!

ive done alot of reading on the primal wound, and all i have to say is HAHAHAHAHAAAAA and HA!
its such a joke, like does this author really beleive you need to blame your birthmother for your dysfunctions in life??? Are you kidding me?
Belief in the primal wound is like beleiving in santa clause. ITs not real..its all in your head and im sure real in the minds of people who beleive in such nonsence!

If you were a therapist and had a patient with, divorces, and unhealthy relationships, inability to keep a job , abuse, and he blamed it all on his birthmother and the primal wound you would have to get to the real issue, not the made up PW. This is so typical of adoptees who find the need to blame the mistakes they made on what went on before they were born.

i guess the bad grade i got in math class in the 5th grade i should blame it on the primal wound! lmao!