open adoption ,,,,closed minds! ugh

there are people that don’t like the idea of open adoption….they cling to the “fact” that it would be terribly confusing for the children. There’s also one arguments that it’s just “not fair” to “force” the child to build a relationship with this stranger (you know – the stranger that gave birth to them). BUT these same people are more than welcome to introduce their child to all kinds of other strangers, the grandparents the child doesn’t know yet. The aunts and uncles that they haven’t met, friends of the family , coworkers, etc.....

Recenently i was talking to some people who just dont get it. Its so weird to me, they said, "so you kind of share parenting" I was like, NO, "Dan and I are the parents." THen i got,,"well what if she tries to take him back" THAT is my all time favorite lol. I had to explain that open adoption is still adoption, the child is still and always will be LEGALLY ours, nothing can change that.
There is so much misconception about openess that i so wish would change. THere is no confusion in my children either bio children or adopted as to who mommy and daddy are. THe only thing that closed adoptions do is lie and deceive the one person that deserves the truth! THE CHILD!